Growing up, I was a dreamer. Oh wait, I still am... Nevertheless, when I was a young dreamer, my mother use to tell me " be careful what you wish for." She would explain to me that if you continue to wish for something to be real long and hard enough, that those thoughts may eventually become reality. At the time I wondered how is that possible?
While I never understood it, at a young age, I found that in some of the things I would wish for that I would not always think of them being very positive, or even focus on the negative aspect of them. Of course now I realize that I needed to work through the power of my negative thoughts in order to get through some of the moments of my life or my dreams in a positive manner. Regardless, there is no doubt about it, my mother was right; for many of the things I wished for did become my reality, whether they were good, bad or indifferent. There were plenty of times, I would wish for or imagine many different things for myself. Whether it be to close my eyes so Christmas Day would get here sooner (I remember many of these days), to get through a tough test at school, to become an adult overnight, so I could make and live by my own rules, or that the days and nights would pass quickly, so that that I would wake up and everything that was happening to me would have just been a bad dream. No matter the wish, the thought, the hope, or the dream, it just seemed to be and that is how I made it through to the next day.
Present day is no different. Whether it be to find a way to make it through a tough day, away from a negative influence, situation, or to wish hard enough for the days to pass so that I would be able to be on my way to spend time with my daughter again, the process just seemed to work in order to get me through each of those moments in a positive manner.
For most of my life, I have felt that if we believe in ourselves long and hard enough, no matter the situation, that we can become what we want to be and be present where we want and need to be. I am a firm believer that the power of the mind should never be underestimated, because there is significant relevance to mind over matter. However, sometimes in order to get to the positive end result that we desire, we must face and deal with the negative along the way. For some, giving an intentional ear to the positive power of negative thought can be enlightening, instructive and even motivating most of the time.
I will be the first to admit that some negative thinking patterns have the ability to dominate our thoughts and feelings and not end on a good note for us. These thoughts have the power to limit our ability to move forward in a positive and healthy manner to achieve success with the situation, or to successfully pave the way to our life goals.
The lessons I have learned over time and especially recently is that we have to watch and listen to our thoughts. This will show us where we are emotionally and mentally at the moment compared to where we wish to be. We must first shine a light on our 'negative thought' before we can change it and use it in a positive manner and in our favor. I will admit that I have made some missteps in my thought process over the years by spending too much time on the 'negative thought,' but I can honestly say, I learned a valuable lesson from that process, which will benefit me as I move into the next phase of my life.
Recently, I have had time to reflect on all that I have experienced and those things that continue to happen in my life, good, bad and indifferent. I am very lucky to say that I feel as though I have been blessed over the years. Regardless of the situation, I have learned valuable lessons from those things that blessed my life, as well as from all of the other things that happened along the way. I am able to find an overwhelming sense of peace for myself in most, if not all of the what and why I have "wished" for, past, present and future. For me it was being able to include both the negative and positive thought processes in each of those things that I "wished for" that have enabled me to not only make it through the rain, but sometimes I was even able to dance.